The Sickness of Separation

Us vs Them

It is rather heartbreaking that an “us versus them” mentality is something humans have no trouble recognizing and expressing. In contrast to a sense of unity, this mindset stems from an inner spiritual disconnection from God, nature, and life itself. The resulting darkness breeds hatred fueled by xenophobia and racism. The hatred conjures win-lose scenarios where eliminating the “other” may be necessary for survival. Only the privileged few who rule will have a bright future in this world.

History has many examples of this very unfortunate state of human affairs. In Ancient Greece, citizens often labeled foreigners as “barbarians” and considered them inferior, fueling old forms of nationalism and exclusion. In Medieval Europe, religious differences intensified intolerance, leading to persecution and violence against minorities like Jews and Muslims. This sentiment fueled the Crusades. The existence of the Ku Klux Klan in the 1920s targeted not only Blacks but also Catholics, Jews, and other immigrants. Germany’s Nazi rise during the 1930s stands as a prime example of extreme xenophobia. It resulted in the eventual killing of millions of Jews, Russians, and other groups based on a belief in Aryan superiority.

My current disillusionment with American life in 2025 arises from a growing concern about the lack of empathy and concern for others fueled by xenophobic attitudes. As a naturalized citizen and immigrant who arrived in this country at 9, I have always seen Americans as kind and generous, despite the challenges they face. Their generosity has extended beyond their neighborhood to the entire planet. Coming from a nondescript area in Central America, we often encountered the fascinating American way of life. It was mainly through movies, news, and those courageous relatives who ventured into this unknown land of dreams. My direct exposure to the American Dream in the 1960s persuaded me that the U.S. was the land of opportunity, rewarding hard work and peaceful living. I was lucky to have arrived when I did.

This luminous immigrant aspiration was the basis of my hopefulness and optimism. Now, forces of inhumanity, unkindness, and heartlessness are changing, corrupting, and squashing it for millions of others in the very land that is supposed to attract. Given a native populace that is faithful and hardworking, it’s difficult to comprehend how some express and support such darkness, and how these expressions have persisted. Has the silent majority awakened to a new reality where they must now cling to their wealth and comfort before losing it? Why do they experience a sense of threat? Is the danger real?

Donald Trump did not create xenophobia in 21st century America. He embodies a rapidly escalating and persistent issue. What fuels this fear of anything perceived as foreign or strange? One likely answer is that rapid globalization has led to national boundaries becoming transparent. The resulting mass migration has triggered a sense of identity among both the immigrants to and the existing residents of those countries. Coupled with this migration is the widespread sense of unease, meaninglessness, and disconnection experienced by many in contemporary society. Despite wealth and access to information, the predicament often manifests as a search for meaning, purpose, and connection beyond the material or consumerist aspects of life. In such a world, people view foreigners with suspicion, believing they erode cultural identity and belonging, increase social isolation and alienation, and exhaust resources available to the native population.

Similar to the rise of the Nazis, unchecked nationalism, selfishness, and a scarcity of love in the current cultural dynamics exacerbates this spiritual predicament and enhances its self-destructive nature. Most people don’t recognize the inevitable outcome of this blind passion. Unchecked, it causes pain and suffering. Indeed, the current manifestation has already led to thousands, if not millions, of children dying because of the actions of the government. In January 2025, the Trump administration started a 90-day freeze on all US foreign aid. This led to defunding of programs managed by the US Agency for International Development (USAID). In July, a budget passed which will strain the survival capacities of many citizens by the cuts in Medicaid and other resources, likely resulting in hardship, misery, and death.

What can we do as individuals? Do not give in to the sense of helplessness. Recognize our own sense of unease, meaninglessness, and disconnection with the culture, life, and spirit. More specifically, resist the temptation to join the movement. It’s difficult to fight peer and social pressure when such movements gain popularity and momentum. A kind of unconscious group-think takes over. Yet we don’t have to engage the impulse. Be true to your values, to your sense of self as a kind person. Loving, compassionate life persists and will return once this sickness resolves. Still, this period of uncertainty requires intentionality and a conscious choice regarding who we are and our preferred future. BE KIND TO ONE ANOTHER!

The Benefits of Meditation: Rediscovering the Real You

We all have ideas about what meditation is. It means many things to different people—a tool, a religious path, a lifestyle. At its root, there is a sense of gathering, of bringing together and focusing the resources of attention on the present moment. Meditation practice brings this awareness to a narrow or broad focus, along with a certain gentleness and care, to reduce our reactivity to life events. As we become proficient in the skill, the spotlight of attention falls on either simple or complex targets. A major focus is our own mind and its helter-skelter motifs, replete with uncertainty, randomness, and emotional pain. At some point, we attend to that which holds all objects of attention—awareness itself.

We practice these skills to relax, for health reasons, or to explore spiritual matters. How we meditate varies, either sitting, lying down, walking, chanting, dancing, or carrying on with our life. Each mode and approach offer valuable experiences and important insights. Mindfulness, qi jong, yoga, mantras, TM, prayer, progressive relaxation, Dzogchen, Zen, Sufi dancing are all part of what one imagines when the word is mentioned. Because there are so many styles and variations, the practice of meditation, and what might be its outcome, seems complex, confusing, and unnecessarily complicated.

As a psychological and health improvement practice, the consistent routine of meditation reduces stress, anxiety, memory loss, negative emotions, and pain, while improving heart rate, concentration, sleep, emotional health, patience, tolerance, imagination and creativity. These positive outcomes fuel the growing interest. As it assumes a spiritual orientation and lifestyle, meditation becomes especially intricate. An aspiration in this approach is to reconcile with an initial unity we experienced as children. Limitless paths exist to such unity, involving concepts of God, Buddha-nature, the Source, enlightenment, kensho, satori, wakefulness, realization, etc. and innumerable methods and techniques to help us get there. Just like the act of driving remains the same regardless of the vehicle you use, despite the hundreds of variations, styles, and gadgets associated with driving, meditation from a spiritual perspective remains straightforward. At its most basic, it concerns mental and spiritual health, and the rediscovery of the real you.

I would argue there are only three absolutely necessary actions needed to practice meditation, everything else is optional.

  1. Be present-moment centered and focused on: “Who is present?”
  2. Stop identifying with mind and body
  3. Trust and surrender to the non-conceptual awareness that arises.

Regardless of your particular method and technique, consistently practicing meditation as an act of love towards yourself and others, whether as a secular or spiritual intention, will help you develop and fine-tune the following unique traits:

Stillness: More than the absence of movement, stillness is an attitude that “life is perfect as it is” or more prosaically that “life is what it is.” It is the reality which is in front of us — a single outcome out of a set of infinite possibilities given the history and circumstances of each moment — and which we accept and have no need to change.

No-mind: This comes from a Buddhist martial arts term, Mushin, that translates literally as no-mind. It refers to a mind that is not fixed or occupied by thought or emotion and open to everything. An unencumbered mind that lacks self-centeredness and flows unimpeded from moment to moment. Also associated with the term “beginner’s mind” and “compassionate mind.”

Flow: Overlaps with the idea of “no-mind.” It is the sense of being completely immersed and absorbed in an activity or task, in which we lose a sense of space and time. The psychologist Mihály Csikszentmihályi described it as when “The ego falls away. Time flies. Every action, movement, and thought follows inevitably from the previous one, like playing jazz. Your whole being is involved, and you’re using your skills to the utmost.”

Clarity: A comprehensive way of viewing life, with a clearness of perception, thinking, and intentionality. This is seeing ourselves, the context of our life, our goals and intentions holistically. It is opening our mind to the Infinite and recognizing that like a wave on the ocean we express that ultimate Reality.

Situational Awareness: Right Mindfulness (from Buddha’s Eightfold Path). It means being aware of our thoughts, actions, and intentions in that moment with a gentle and caring attitude. Or as David Brooks has described it: a feel for the unique contours of the situation. An intuitive awareness of when to follow and when to break the rules. A feel for the flow of events, a special sensitivity, not necessarily conscious, for how fast to move and what decisions to take that will prevent a bad outcome. A sensitivity that flows from experience, historical knowledge, humility in the face of uncertainty, and having led a reflective and interesting life.

Joy: More than an emotion of delight, joy is a state of being and cherishing of the moment, feeling fulfilled, lacking nothing, and being content. A feeling that pervades your entire body, mind, and spirit.

Empathy, love, and compassion: This is our sense of responsibility for others. We feel what they feel and are moved to help relieve their suffering. These are the motivators and bonds that form a true intimacy with others.

Trust and lack of fear: As fears subside, the reality of something greater than ourselves increases and trust in its benevolence grows. It is a non-conceptual awareness that carries a sense of vitality, intelligence, and love.

Openness, curiosity and creativity: As fears subside, the innate nature of our original mind comes to the foreground: An inner and outer boundless field of awareness that is open, active, adaptable, dynamic, inquisitive, and creative.

Wisdom: The wisdom of our open and creative mind is available to respond intuitively, spontaneously, and appropriately in any circumstance that we encounter, without the need to conceptualize and rationalize. It transcends intellectual/conceptual knowing.